Believe me when I say that I intend to be on this earth for a long, long time. I want to watch my kids grow up. I plan to write many books and therefore, I am so grateful for the reminder: If I want to stick around, I need to take care of myself the way I care for the people I love. I've learned a lot these past few months and I am able to think more clearly, plan accordingly to fit in time for myself but most importantly, put myself first. I am able to handle frustration better, and sleep through the night thanks to minor tweaks in my perspective and daily habits. However, after my learnings, I love teaching and sharing with my clients about what they can do for themselves in order to take better care of themselves. Learning and understanding the WHY behind it all, makes a big difference in how we interpret self-care. Below are six of the self-care tips that have truly worked wonders for me.
The first step: Remember that it isn't selfish to look after yourself. It is critical for your happiness and well-being. You have limits, and they are crucial for helping you honor your health. You have needs, and you deserve affection, rest, sustenance, and grace-- just like everyone else does. And you have dreams and are worthy of the time it takes to pursue what makes your heart come alive.
2. Gift Yourself.
When was the last time you did this? Each week, choose something that you will add to your life: A colorful water bottle to encourage proper hydration. A beautiful new journal to record your dreams. An extra hour of sleep or exercise or creative expression. If nothing else, give yourself a moment of grace, forgiveness, or acceptance every now and then.
3. Restore Yourself.
Think back to what made you feel happy as a child. Was it the smell of a library book? Or listening to the crickets at night? Maybe it was strumming a guitar or walking barefoot in the grass? Try to re-create those experiences of simple pleasure.
4. Speak up for Yourself.
Choose a trusted soul and voice the unspeakable: "I need help." "I am afraid." "I haven't felt like myself in a while." There is something about voicing the burden that makes it lighter. Give the people close to you a chance to support you.
5. Take the pressure off yourself.
What are you telling yourself about your parenting skills? What are you telling yourself about your appearance? What are you telling yourself about your long-to-do-list? Now try setting more realistic expectations. Lower the bar; let something go. Ban the word "should" from your vocabulary today. And when you lie down in bed tonight, ask yourself, "Did I show up?" If the answer is yes, that is enough. It's more than enough.
6. Notice the good in yourself.
Take a moment to recognize any tough obstacles that you've overcome or lessons you've learned-- and think about how far you've come. Then try to see yourself through the eyes of those who love you. They don't see imperfections, failings, and mistakes. They see love, never-failing love. Try to see it too.
Wanting to shift perspective and make a change in your life? Wanting to improve your self-care and self-love habits? Want to improve your quality of life? Book an appointment with me and I would love to help and coach you along the way. Life is a short journey. Choose to do something for yourself today!